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Sexual abstinence is restraining oneself from sexual intercourse or any types of sexual acts before/outside of marriage. Some people consider that it is the way to avoid pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections, and some people think that it is just a part of religious practices. However, you do not need to be religious to know that sex has divine meaning. Most old practices or cultures exist for a reason, so abstinence also is here for a reason somehow.
Today, so many people tend to become sexually active at young age; teens. In most cases, young teens do not know the true meaning of sex. Some of them are just curious, some of them want to be LIKE adults, and some of them are just trying to fit in the environments they are in. Not only that, adults also tend to have sexual experiences with multiple partners those days. Sex before marriage causes a lot of troubles, including diseases, unexpected pregnancies, and emotional pains. In the 1950s, when teens were taught to abstain from sex before marriage, one could count on one hand the number of known sexually transmitted diseases. Today, there are more than 30, and nearly one-third are incurable. In 1967, one out of every 32 high school students in the United States carried a sexually transmitted disease. Today, it is one in four – and the average pregnant teen is carrying 2.3 STDs! Today, 40 million people around the world are living with “HIV” or “AIDS”, and an estimated 25 million have died since 1981, according to the World Health Organization. But AIDS is not the only deadly disease circulating among the sexually promiscuous. In 1997, more U.S. women died from cancer caused by the human papillomavirus (also known as "genital warts") than from AIDS. In fact, the Center for Disease Control reports, "HPV is likely the most common STD among young, sexually active people." It is hard to keep yourself from sexual desires because of all the Medias and internet available all around you. For example, teens who watch lots of sexually explicit television programs are about twice as likely to become sexually active as those who don't watch the television shows, an article in this month's Pediatrics reports. It is actually natural to have physical drives and be curious and interested in sex or sexual things. We are animals, too, but we are different from other animals because we are capable of fighting against bad temptations and making right judgments. You just need to know how to avoid situation that might lead you to bad decision. How to behave yourself affects your whole life indeed. Rules for ourselves that will keep us from saying "yes" to something we will later regret. 1: Never go into a house, apartment, or other isolated location where temptation with someone of the opposite sex has a chance to flourish. Your location clearly makes a difference in how you can act. Our best choice is to avoid situations where we may be tempted to do the regrettable.
2: Do not play with foreplay. One action leads to another. Holding hands is not enough for long, and we do not kiss from a distance. Along with the kissing comes full body-press hugging! Given enough time, a person may want to say no, but hormonal instincts can take over. 3: Leave a party where drugs or alcohol are being served. "Recreational" alcohol use too often ends in disaster. People often loose their good judgment and defense. In fact, there are people out there who will deliberately use alcohol or drugs to take advantage of you – rape. Do not let a stranger buy you a drink. 4: Do not expose yourself to sexually explicit material in movies, books, television programs, or on the Internet. Those things not only increase sexual desire and physical drives, but also bring you wrong ideas about sex which affect actual sexual life. Sex is sacred for two individuals – husbands and wives – who love and respect each other and a expression of their love and pleasure. Sex is not to share with multiple partners. Casual sexual experience brings you nowhere but misery and regret, possibly STDs/lethal diseases. Especially many women engrave regret in their heart for the rest of their life. In addition, many people who experienced casual sex become sterile for good because of STDs caused by one misjudgment they made. You also could pass it on to some one truly you love and care. If this happens, it’s too late to regret. So why not respect and love yourself and your partner enough to protect you from temptations that cause pain and sorrow later. Some mistakes made in your youth will stay with you for the rest of your life, and all the tears and the regrets in the world will not change that. Sex is not play. It comes with big responsibility – pregnancy –. Countless babies are being murdered every day. Conception of new life is meant to be celebrated and bring happiness to the family. Unexpected pregnancy occurred by casual sexual acts lead people to bad judgment, that is, abortion. Abortion does not kill only innocent babies but does damage women emotionally and physically as well. Many women fell guilty after their abortion process and become sterile from the process. If you can not take responsibility for your action, you are not even mature enough to have sex after all. Maybe some women decide to have a baby. That’s great, but, you do not know who the baby’s biological father is or, in many cases, he leaves you and the baby (even you know who the father is). It is hard enough for you to support the baby but you have to face sad reality that baby has to grow up without father figure in his/her life. Your life is in your hands. Grasp joyful and happy future. Do not let short-sighted temptation ruin your life. |
